Maina and King’ang’i had an interesting discussion today. Their conversation concerned the phenomenon of wives having so much power over their husbands that they literally control every facet of their lives.
Maina was incredulous that grown men were so easily manipulated/controlled by their women. “Kwani wamerogwa? How is it possible?” he said.
King’ang’i meanwhile wasn’t as shocked and said that it was a common theme among many marriages in Kenya. “You will not see your family for 3 to 4 years and even friends you hustled with. I don’t know how they do it. But you just find that you aren’t seeing your family. It’s all about her and the children.”
One listener stunned Maina when he revealed that he hadn’t seen his mother for 10 years because of his wife’s interference.
I got married when I was in campus so when I was in school, my wife stayed with my mother. So I finished and got a job. Then my wife told me she cant stay with my mother. I had to quit my job and that was it. I have not seen my mother for 10 years.
“I have spent 10 years without seeing my mother. Every time I plan to go, I end up spending the money on issues that my wife brings up. My mother hasn’t seen my two kids since they were born.”
Some of the comments from other listeners are below;
Last year we buried my mother without my brother attending the funeral. His wife had turned him that much – A man said.
After death, fear women. They have certain powers over men and it is too gradual to realise – A man.
How can a grown man call a radio station saying that he hasn’t seen his mom for 10 years. That is his own responsibility – A woman said.
Let them obey their women -A woman said.
The start of family divisions start with women, then in-laws – A man.
I don’t know when you will ever wear a man’s shoes. When I tell her I want to see her my parents, issues pop up but when it is time to go to her family, then the finances come up. It is all about her. I stayed for 1 year and 4 months without seeing my mother. Every time I tried, something came up – A woman said.
These men are outrightly shameless. This is sad to say so. To those that still have their mothers don’t take them for granted – A man said.
How can a grown-ass man claim that he hasn’t seen his mother for 10 years? These men are blaming women for their own choices. You know where your mother leaves, go there and visit them – A woman said.
Men wamekaliwa chapati. The moment you get married you have to spell out rules and regulations. A man is the head of the house and the woman should follow. The men we have are viatus – A man said.